Category: Life


It has been a while since my last blog entry. I have found myself engrossed in the election coverage, the post-election analysis and the implications of this change for the country and the world at large. Beyond the historical significance of what we all just witnessed, I believe with all my heart that November 4th represented a new normal for our kids and one more step in the fulfillment of Dr King’s dream. It is important to note that leaders get into office, not just because they earned it, or ran the best campaign, but because God has established them there.

Romans 13:1 niv  “Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.”

No doubt, God is ultimately in control. And yes, we have an incredible privilege and freedom to vote and exercise our duty, but at the end of the day, God sets one up and brings one down.

I’ve been grieved by some of the comments being slung against the current President. It seems that all restraint is gone now that his term is almost over. Personally, I have struggled with some of the decisions he has made.  The issue isn’t whether he was a good or a bad president. I believe there’s a more important issue here – the office he holds. The Office of the President deserves our respect and should be honored. We respect the office not just because of the individual, but rather, because of the “One” who ultimately establishes men in office. In the same manner, we would all want President Obama to receive the honor from all Americans – not because of his color, but because of his office.

One of the things that distinguished Dr. Martin Luther King was his unyielding commitment to love his enemies and honor His God. He said: “Our means must be as pure as the end we desire.” He not only prayed for those responsible for imposing injustice upon a people because of their color, but also for those who were against the means he chose, even though they shared his color.

I am convinced that the issue is not who is elected, it is who we become regardless of who is the President. Our responsibility is to shape the future of this culture for the next generation. We do that by teaching our kids to honor those in authority, even when we disagree with their positions; to pray for them, and to remain grateful to God for the freedom we have as a nation. To always conduct ourselves in a way that mirrors the end we pursue.

I am stoked about the future of our country. I thank God that our kids can indeed believe that no position is out of their reach. Regardless of the color of their skin, they can dream big and reach for their highest potential. Along the way, I also want them to learn things like honor, respect, and develop an unyielding commitment to live in a way that pleases God. To borrow from Dr. King – having means as pure as their desired end, and that includes honoring the current President today, and our new President on January 20th 2009.

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2 Corinthians 12:9 Each time he said, “My gracious favor is all you need. My power works best in your weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may work through me. NLT

It’s difficult to reconcile how Paul could use the words boast and weaknesses in the same sentence. We cover our weakness, try to repair it, not boast about it.  In all honesty, facing and dealing with our weakness can be a daily burden leaving us discouraged and depressed. What seems to be a molehill for others is a mountain in our lives.  Yet, God’s promise to us is that in spite of our weakness, and, as a matter of fact, during the times when we feel most helpless, we can turn to Him for help.  His power works at its best when our strength is at its least.

Charlotte Elliott struggled with this issue in her life.  She became bitter and angry about the circumstances in her life.  Charlotte was an invalid from her youth and deeply resented the circumstances of her handicap.  When she gave her life to God, she longed to be used by Him, yet she felt her health and physical condition prevented it. Alone one evening, she poured out her feelings to God and penned the words:

Just as I am, tho tossed about

With many a conflict, many a doubt

Fightings and fears within, without,

O Lamb of God, I come! I come!

 You may recognize this as the third stanza to a song that has been sung at many evangelistic meetings.  A song that epitomizes that we can all come to God the way we are.  This song has helped millions to make that step… that step towards the unconditional, outstretched arms of God.  Charlotte may not have seen the fruits of her work, yet God used her moment of seeming weakness and despair to change the lives of many. Indeed, in spite of Charlotte’s physical impairment, God used her pen to draw millions to Him.

 Don’t focus on your difficulties or weaknesses.  Focus on the God who is bigger than your difficulties. Turn to Him in your moments of weakness and invite Him to show Himself strong on your behalf.  Whether or not you feel strong is irrelevant.  Don’t wallow in it.  Immerse yourself in your God. Let Him be your strong tower. Let Him bring out the best in you.

Question: What weaknesses are consuming your attention? Drawing you to look at yourself instead of the bigness of your God?  Let God show himself strong in spite of your circumstances.  Talk to Him today. His gracious favor is all you need. 

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Sorry about the title and yes it is a trick question. I borrowed it from Stuart McAllister. Does your mother know that you are stupid? There is no good answer to this question.  If you say yes – you are acknowledging your stupidity. If you say no, you are acknowledging her ignorance of your stupidity. If you say I don’t know – you are saying you are too stupid to even know how your mother feels about you. 

Indeed, questions can have an embedded assumption or assertion. No wonder, very often Jesus would ask a question in return, when confronted with a question. He did it to force people to think, and to force them to open up within their own assumptions. He had a way of helping people come to grips with their motivation.

When asked in Matthew 19 “Teacher, what good deed must I do to have eternal life?” he responded, “Why ask me about what is good?”

When approached by some Pharisees about a woman caught in adultery they asked: “The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?” he responded with a statement – but really with a question of self-examination “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!”

Consider this classic example in 

Luke 20:20-22 nlt  Watching for their opportunity, the leaders sent secret agents pretending to be honest men. They tried to get Jesus to say something that could be reported to the Roman governor so he would arrest Jesus. 21 They said, “Teacher, we know that you speak and teach what is right and are not influenced by what others think. You sincerely teach the ways of God. 22 Now tell us – is it right to pay taxes to the Roman government or not?”

To understand what is happening here, we need to consider the context. The religious people asking the question believed they were God’s chosen people and enslaved by the Roman Government. Their belief was that if you pay taxes, you are financing oppression of God’s holy people. It is why Jesus just couldn’t say yes. If he did, due to their cultural assumptions, they would accuse him of compromising his holiness to save his own life. If he says no, they would then turn him over to the Roman government to be charged with tax evasion. Jesus chose to respond to the question with one of his own.

Luke 20:23-26 He saw through their trickery and said, 24 ”Show me a Roman coin. Whose picture and title are stamped on it?” “Caesar’s,” they replied. 25 “Well then,” he said, “give to Caesar what belongs to him. But everything that belongs to God must be given to God.” 26 So they failed to trap him in the presence of the people. Instead, they were amazed by his answer, and they were silenced.

He answers the question – give to Cesar what belongs to him and by that, he shows them that it doesn’t make you unholy. Holiness is about giving to God what is rightfully His. I have wondered, why they didn’t ask the next logical question. So, what belongs to God? He could have then led them into how a right understanding on how to worship God in a way that is true and holy. 

It is important that we check our motives before we launch the question. Here are some “questions” to prepare our hearts toward God.

Am I honestly seeking to know what is true? Have I “loaded” the question to shape the response I want to hear?

Lord, what wrong assumptions about you have I brought into this conversation?

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Gotta read this…

This is an excerpt from of the most gifted teachers and writers that I learn from. F.W. Boreham captures in his essay “The Sword of Solomon” why life is to be valued.

“There is a sense in which two and two are four, the plane of ledgers and cashbooks – on which these propositions are approximately sound. But if you rise from that plane to a loftier one, you will find at once that they are untenable … it is obviously untrue that half-a-baby and half-a-baby make a baby. Let the sword do its deadly work… The two halves of a baby make no baby at all. On this higher plane of human sentiment and experience, the laws of mathematics collapse completely.

When a man distributes his wealth among his children, he gives to each a part.  But when a woman distributes her love among her children, she gives it all to each … No man who has once fallen in love will ever be persuaded that one and one are only two. He looks at her, and feels that one plus one would be a million … No happy couple into the sweet shelter of whose home a little child has come will ever be convinced that two and one are only three. Life has been enriched a thousandfold by the addition of that one little life to theirs. And I am certain that no pair from whose clinging and protecting arms their treasure has been snatched will find comfort in the assurance that one from three leaves two. In the great crises of life one’s faith in figures breaks down hopelessly. “

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Yesterday morning on the way to school I had an opportunity to talk to Joshua regarding why it’s important to know how to ask the right questions.  Here is how the conversation went.

Question #1: “Josh, when you ask, ‘do you have your iTouch?’ What are you really asking?”

Response #1: “If I could play with it.”

Question #2: “And when you ask, ‘Are you tired?’ What are you really wanting to know?”

Response #2: “Can you come out and play with me?“

Question #3: “Ok, now the last one – when you ask, ‘do you have any money?’ What are you really asking?”

Response #3: “Can you buy me something?”

This time, the light bulb is turning on and he sheepishly smiles. You see had he asked the right questions, I would immediately know what it was he really cared about. Regarding the iTouch, what he really wants me to know is that he is bored and is looking for something to address that need. When he inquiries about whether I am tired or not – what he doesn’t know is that many times I have played with him, even though I was tired, because I knew it was important to him.  However, to be fair, knowing Joshua as I do, it would be just like him to think about how I was feeling even though he is dying to “school” me in basketball. Or perhaps a different question – “Dad, I really wish I could have that” might yield – how about next week when I get paid, or maybe I have the money and it’s not something I would choose to spend it on.

Why then do we not say what we mean or ask for what we want? Perhaps it’s our need for self-preservation and protection. We don’t want to be rejected so we take as our starting point, the last response we thought we got to our inquiry.

Our assumptions about the person may be entirely wrong. Where this is especially important, is when it starts creeping into the questions we ask of ourselves, and the questions we ask of God. Our questions provide insight into the assumptions we make. As a goal, we should grow in being authentic and honest with ourselves and especially towards God. It’s the foundation for an honest seeking of His grace and truth in our lives.

Indeed – questions are important. Thinking about our questions can be a stepping- stone into growing in integrity within, and enjoying authenticity with God.  In a future blog, we will look at how Jesus used questions to get to the heart of the matter. 

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In a couple previous blogs titled, “What I Must Teach My Boys,” I started to develop the idea that I must teach my children how to ask the right questions. It’s time to continue this thought. So, in my next post, I will discuss why asking the right question is so very important. I trust it makes as much sense to you as it does to me.

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What’s Cool Anyway?

Over the years, I have collected so many T-Shirts personally designed by my boys. I usually don’t wear them except in the confines of the house but I guess to show my appreciation, I decided to wear the last one made as I relaxed on my day off. This shirt was done probably a year ago – it simply says: “This Daddy is an All-Star.” One of the more “sophisticated” ones, as it was a press-on.

At dinner tonight, the conversation shifted to coolness. Jonathan had previously told me: “Daddy, I love you, even though you’re not cool” but I guess I just thought he heard that from some devilish television show and didn’t really understand what it meant. Well, he decided to relieve me of my self-deception. He said – daddy, you are just not cool. Look at your shirt! Connie busted out laughing instead of coming to my defense.

Well I got something to say. Its true, I should not be wearing these hand-made shirts outside the house. But the fact that my generation and this generation both understand the word “cool,” means we have one thing in common. We both use a word that still has value and relevance. The word “cool” has outlasted all the new slang words.

“Hip, groovy, crazy, nervous, far-out, rad, and tubular have for the most part not had the staying power or continued universal appeal of cool.” Dictionary.com.

The jury is still out on how long newer expressions of approval such as def and phat will survive. Ed Young said, “we used to be cool, until our kids made us un-cool.” We never really lost anything (or at least that’s what I took away from his statement.) So, in some sense we will always be cool in our own eyes. I just need to focus on what will forever remain cool. I’ve compiled a short list:

· Having dinner together as a family and enjoying our best laughs there.

· Knowing my seven year old could poke fun at his dad and know its “all-good”

· Praying together as a family at night and appreciating how good God is to us.

· Enjoying the fact that they are enjoying all the cartoons we did in our time – except they are now full-length, high-tech movies like Batman, Hulk, Iron Man, etc.

· Hearing “I love you” from my way-cool middle-schooler, Josh, as I drop him off to school each day.

· Appreciating that they still want to introduce us to their friends.

I may not dress cool, dance cool, or talk cool anymore, but I can still help with homework, work hard and provide for their cool choices, and treat their mom right as somehow she never seems to lose her cool points.

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Twelve Stones

Joshua 4:6

We will use these stones to build a memorial. In the future, your children will ask, ‘What do these stones mean to you?’ nlt

First some context: When the children of Israel crossed the Jordan river, the water parted leaving dry ground. God asked them to build a memorial using twelve (12) stones. These stones would serve as a modern day – digital picture. God wanted them to have a memorial so that their kids could live the experience and hear the story, just like our family albums today.  Our children may not remember the two-year old birthday party they had and the spaghetti they flung over the white carpet, but the pictures help them to experience it.

What can I apply from these 12 stones to my life today? 

Each day we live we create memories.  We create memories in the lives of our kids, our spouses, our parents, our friends, and even our enemies.

If our kids were to memorialize the events of this past week,

Will they recount hugs or hurts?

Will they recount love or lies and deception?

Will they recount humor or harsh words?

If our spouse were to memorialize the events of this week

Will they remember the times you spent together or the excuses?

Will they think of the beautiful gifts, loving notes, caresses or the verbal fights and the names you called each other?

My wife taught me this principle many years ago when Joshua was much younger and wanted to help me wash the car. All I could think of was how much it will delay this project and I grumbled to her. At that point she sweetly responded, “David – in your busyness, don’t lose an opportunity to create a memory for him.” Nuf said. From that point forward, washing the car has become a family project immediately followed by a water-fight.

No doubt about it, each day we interact with others we create memories.  You can apply this to your friendships and co-workers in a similar manner. We have the power to determine what type of memories they will be. Let’s make them great ones worth remembering.

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Wait

If you are ever looking for a solid daily devotional, “Streams In The Desert” by L.B. Cowman is a great option. Today’s devotional focuses on waiting on God. 

Acts 16:7 When they came to the border of Mysia, they tried to enter Bithynia, but the Spirit of Jesus would not allow them to. 

The Author simply says… “there are not only times for action but times to refrain from action.” In our hurried and busy lives inaction seems unthinkable.  It is important that we also practice waiting on God. When we ask Him to guide our decisions and our actions let’s also wait for His response.  A moment taken to first consider the leading of the Holy Spirit may save us from fruitlessness and perhaps even regret. God is faithful. Let’s learn to wait.

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Help a Brother Out

This weekend at Celebration Church, Pastor Stovall reminded us that we were designed to worship and trust God and illustrated it powerfully with the life of Job. So, I decided to read the account in the book of Job again and refresh myself with God’s working in his life. What stood out to me is that throughout the story we see time after time Job doing a lot of self-reflection, culminating in self-mortification – cursing the day he was born.  By the time you get to Chapter 42, he is taking back everything he said and sitting in dust and ashes to show his repentance.  Then we see a huge shift take place. The bible says in

Job 42:10 “When Job prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes.” nlt

Job shifts the focus from his suffering, from blaming God, from looking back, to repentance and praying for his friends. He’s recognizing their needs over his. But wait – they didn’t endure the calamity, he did. But Job shows his growth through this process, it really didn’t matter. He prayed for them and notice what follows – God sends Job restoration and real comfort. Verse 11 says “Then all his brothers, sisters, and former friends came and feasted with him in his home. And they consoled him and comforted him…”

Isn’t it just like God? He wants us to be a blessing to others, and in that, we will find our blessing? He reminds us to put others before ourselves and remember that He is our Father and will take care of our needs. He encourages us to pray for others, only for us to discover, that He has already moved on the hearts of sometimes “strangers” to pray for us.

I believe with all my heart that God would help us out just because, but especially when – we first help a brother out.

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